Post by brachysira on Dec 14, 2016 22:46:12 GMT -5
Okay, I know I periodically ask this and that you guys all think I'm nuts for doing so much, but with kids that don't nap, we have a lot of time...but it's very costly so have to limit too. Four year-olds can do almost anything! Ice skating, tennis, gymnastics, swimming, ukulele, soccer, dance, languages, art. In the summer, most of the camps start at 4. What are your kids doing...?
Right now both kids do preschool and gymnastics and DD takes ballet, but we can revise it all in January.
Post by wineandcake on Dec 15, 2016 0:07:04 GMT -5
Two mornings of nursery school a week. We have no other options here for him. There's swimming in the summer but only at an outdoor pool and he doesn't like being cold. Hockey starts at 4 so we missed the cut off. Maybe next year we'll try something if he isn't too overwhelmed with full time kindergarten.
Three mornings a week of preschool, plus Sunday school once a week. That's it. We would possibly be involved in something else if DS didn't need afternoon naps anymore but I don't see that happening for a long time. I definitely want to do swimming lessons at some point in the future, and DH's family is big into soccer so DD might start U6 soccer next fall.
wineandcake, K next year! I'd love to start DD in K next year but the cut off is Sept. 1. I wouldn't want to start many kids at 4 but DD is the kind of kid who needs constant entertainment so she'd do well, I think. Part of the reason I want to do a lot now is that I hear when they go to school from 8-3 they are a mess and really can't do activities...maybe on the weekends, but nothing in the evening. Although on the other hand, my non-napping kids are pretty much a mess too...
Post by wineandcake on Dec 15, 2016 10:36:01 GMT -5
brachysira I'm in Canada and school starts earlier for us. There's some 3 year olds who start since December 31st is the cut off. Technically it's junior kindergarten, but it's Monday-friday all day. A lot of people delay for a year, but Mac is so ready to go and it saves me money only needing care for one kid full time so we're going for it.
In Canada as well and feb kid was so disappointed she didn't get to start K this year bc some of her friends went. Registration starts in jan and I've got all the forms filled out!
We do weekend activities and while I know they gear them to the age I try to stick to things she will be capable at. So floor hockey was a no-go and while they did have a tennis option I'm going to hold off a bit longer. I would have loved to wait on the skating but dh really wanted her to try so they are signed up for jan. We also have her in swimming and jan15 kid in a kindergym class at the same time.
Post by brachysira on Dec 15, 2016 14:48:31 GMT -5
Yeah, DD can hit a tennis ball if I throw it to her perfectly from about 4 ft away. But she took tennis at 2 and all they did was stuff like drop the ball in the bucket and throw the ball over a tiny net. It would have been fun but she was a lunatic and just screamed the whole time as this was her developmental stage named "insanity." Certainly no tennis was involved although ball handling skills probably are pre-tennis. We also did a 5 day "sporties" class that was fun and involved lots of ball stuff and she was 3.5 so totally not a bad time developmentally for her and she really liked it.
Our kids are in full time daycare. We don't do any other activities. I tried tee ball with z and it was not pleasant. I want to do swim lessons with him in January.
Instead of an organized activity what if you joined a membership to the zoo or a children's museum? Family memberships are often really reasonably priced. I just got a family annual pass to a local zoo on a Groupon deal for $45 total!!
Post by brachysira on Dec 15, 2016 21:28:26 GMT -5
Yeah, full time daycare sounds exhausting. There are kids who go to gymnastics after daycare at night and are often clearly too tired. But they get a lot of education at daycare probably and many daycares offer dance, ball games, etc. so it's like it's covered--except ice skating, swimming, etc. We do belong to a museum and an indoor play space and we visit several others. But indoor play spaces tend to get boring if we go too often and then the kids will fight there as they do at home. Plus, unless it is completely novel, DD is like, "who will play with me? There are only babies here. Wah, blah." So I end up spending lots of time arranging playdates and our playdate list just doesn't extend far enough for us to do these things more than once or twice/week. Of course we don't want to go broke over this stuff, but lessons are fun for her and relaxing for me, and it's enjoyable watching her progress at things.
If we switch preschools, she can do longer days for pre-K, but at her current school, she would do 4 afternoons each only 2.5 hrs each week. We don't qualify for free pre-K, which tends to be full day, so we can't really afford for her to do private full time school while I'm at home.
We do preschool 3 mornings a week and we generally go to story time once a week at the library. That's about it. We have memberships to places like the zoo, the children's museum, etc.. and we go fairly regularly. We also periodically attend kids' services at our synagogue.
My kids have learned how to entertain themselves reasonably well. Trying to continually find novel things for them to do sounds like it would be exhausting!
Post by brachysira on Dec 16, 2016 12:51:52 GMT -5
Indeed, I am exhausted. Church is on our list to explore but probably that won't improve exhaustion, as they need dress clothes, we must give up Sunday morning cleaning, and somehow DH and I are worse at getting the kids out of the house than just me... So we haven't gotten around to church-finding, although I would like to.
We do not have a Little Gym near enough to use it. There are many Y branches but it's $80/month... We would join, but our schedule right now is that DD goes to preschool M/W/F and DS goes T/R with the object that they spend one on one time with mom when the other one is out. They have daycare only in the mornings and at night, but at night we're usually eating and doing bedtime. So it's expensive, especially if I'm not going to work out all the time. Maybe next year.
Post by crimsonandclover on Dec 17, 2016 11:23:29 GMT -5
Feb child goes to preschool (which is really just supervised free play with some organized craft activities and singing) every morning and about 2 afternoons / week. We do ballet and swimming, and it's not too much for her. Preschool here is not nearly as academic as it has become in the US, though. It's basically daycare for older kids.
Post by seadragon2013 on Dec 17, 2016 15:14:07 GMT -5
DS goes to preschool five days a week, which includes music class, PE, and cooking class. We had him in swim class during the summer and early fall, but we're taking a break right now for the holidays. Right now, I'm enjoying having weekends and evenings as family time.
Post by brachysira on Dec 17, 2016 21:17:15 GMT -5
crimsonandclover, our current preschool is hella not academic. Even the crafts are pretty much like, "here's a seasonal shape to scribble on with crayons" with a slight deviation to paint once in a while. They do read to them and sing songs sometimes. I think DD would probably do better in a more academic preschool, but I can't quite find anything that seems right. I figured I would just do more academic and creative activities at home but she's not into that anymore and she's pretty much stalled academically at about 2.5, when she quit listening to me. Since she could count and read a little at 2.5, she's not really behind but it's super irritating that she's actually less good at basic academic things than she was a year ago...
Post by crimsonandclover on Dec 19, 2016 10:02:23 GMT -5
brachysira, but seriously, she's only 4. DD1 (5.5 now) has had phases where she has been really interested in new things and phases where she has not been at all. We have probably gone weeks without her wanting to read any books except bedtime stories (and even then she often picks seek and find things). I am emphatically against academic preschools, and I really don't think you should consider an almost 4 year old "academically stalled" no matter how long it has been since she learned a new skill that we might consider academic. At preschool she's learning things that are just as if not more important in life, especially social skills and if there are few organized activities then presumably also creativity. She will have *plenty* of time to buckle down and learn letters and numbers.
Post by brachysira on Dec 20, 2016 14:20:31 GMT -5
crimsonandclover, yeah, by "academically stalled" I just mean that she's not into anything academic right now, which is quite a deviation from her 2 year-old self. She is more like teen and really into her friends. That's okay but it was fun when she enjoyed doing activities with mom. Her old preschool seemed to spark more ideas and she had interesting stories to tell rather than who played with whom, but as a trade off, she gets to walk to school every day and talk about all the things we see, so that's at least nice.
Post by photomama1990 on Dec 21, 2016 14:30:12 GMT -5
You guys all make me feel like I'm slacking. We don't do preschool, it's WAY too expensive while I'm home and not exactly close by so I'd have to pack everyone up and drive back and fourth for 2.5 hours of school. None of our local activities (soccer, t-ball,etc.) start until kindergarten so we still have 2 more years until we can enroll in that. We do have a membership to the children's museum, but that's still 40 minutes away, so it's an all day adventure.
Post by brachysira on Dec 21, 2016 20:05:11 GMT -5
photomama1990, I don't think you're slacking. These things are for my sanity. If you can stay sane while at home, that's great. If not, perhaps playdates, a library, and stores can help. And although I loathe this view, I am slightly worried that it may be hard to catch up with some things if everyone starts early and my kid doesn't, but if the activities in your town don't start until 5, then you don't have to worry about that.
I signed up him for swim starting in January. I picked the class when I go in with him. As much as I don't want to, I'm worried he will freak out to go in without me. I know he's going to be happy, he loves swimming.
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