Post by freezorburn on Nov 2, 2015 16:38:19 GMT -5
I've been thinking about the upcoming holidays and how they are the first since my STBX decided to blow up our marriage. We're still in the process of negotiating our parenting plan, etc. DS is only 3, so he doesn't necessarily get the significance of calendar days, but I think he will begin to in the next year or so. I think Thanksgiving and Christmas are going to be really hard for me this year. It's hard to feel festive in the wake of a failed marriage and spending my days helping DS work through his own emotions about the changes that have happened. I don't have a lot of extended family close by (just my brother; most of our family lives on the opposite coast), and I don't want to impose too much on friends, who I'm sure will be juggling their own family obligations. I'm also reluctant to travel during peak days, but I might be open to traveling between Christmas and New Year's. Also it's hard to get grandparents to travel because of health concerns.
One thing that might come about is, we might do Thanksgiving with some other single-parent families that we've connected with.
What strategies do you have for getting through the holidays?
I keep coming back to this thread, and honestly I have not a clue how I'll handle this. This will also be my first time around, but have little to no contact with DD's dad. I WAS really surprised how much Fathers day affected me emotionally, back in June. Looking back I don't know if it was pp hormones, really grieving the loss of that "structure" for DD, or somewhere between the both of them. The thread we had during that time did help me a lot, so maybe we can make a running thread for that, or use this thread for those feelings/thoughts?
Will you get to spend some amounts of time with your brother? I like the idea of spending thanksgiving with other single parent families you've met. I hope that between those families, your brother, and other friends your schedule may fill up quickly.
I don't know how holidays will look. My son and I usually do whatever feels right combo of things. single friends tgiving sounds awesome. But this year my new SO and her 2 kids are going thru their first holidays separated parents, and Im trying to support her- and figure out what the hell is going on for them, and make it special for us, together too...
You too Luna! Ours - which included So's ex picking up the kids in the middle of tgiving dinner-went surprisingly well. No tears, no drama. My DS also had a fun day, surrounded by my chosen family, and a few select bio family members. Much love on the up coming biggie, but this one had a pretty good trial run
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